Advice?

Why is that it is so easy to give advices to other people? And when we are problemized, we turn to other people too? Why don’t we figure it out ourselves? Why is that so?

Well, they’re not the one facing the problem…so it’s easy. They’re not the one experiencing the pressure. They don’t have to think of those things that the person handling the problem could be worrying about. So those with a problem seek advices to other people, whoever they are. Other people can give advice so easily coz all answer to all problems is simple. Only humans make it complicated. As who we are by nature, we have this knack of making simple things to complicated ones. It’s because when we are faced with a problem, we let other thoughts enter before we even can think about the original answer which comes to us naturally. Each of us knows the answer even before we could even think about another solution. Though we know the answer, we tend to turn left and right instead of going straight. So we kind of “need” someone to lead us coz we are blinded. We are blinded with negativity and those unnecessary thoughts. They cloud our thinking, thus we cannot see the pure answers anymore which is in its simplest form. So this is what advices are here for. We seek them coz we know they help us lead to the answer. It may give us the direct way or give us hints and clues to the solutions. We may also receive different answers when we ask advices from anyone. So how do we know which advice is better? People have different perspectives and way of thinking. So if you ask different people, unique as they are, you are given different answers too. Different, but they only lead to one thing. All you have to do which path to choose, they all lead to the same direction-- though only in different ways.

Basically, we seek advice to give us the assurance that the path that we are taking is right even though deep inside we already knew what’s the answer. Therefore, when we seek advices, what we are really seeking for is the assurance, not the advice itself. The assurance that our solutions are fine. That everything will be alright and that everything will turn out just fine.

On Getting the Girl You Want

You like a girl... you have no experience... your friends dont seem to have the perfect advise... She doesnt seem to notice you. What do you do? Make known of your existence to her and court her?? Naaahhh.. chances are, you're busted before you even get to court her.

Anyway, Is she the kind that seems hard to get? Well, yes...or you shouldnt be here in the first place. All you need is a strategy. A master plan.

Let's get on with it.

PHASE I. -ESTABLISH FRIENDSHIP.

Yep, this is it. Ths may simple but this is the hardest step. This requires patience, art and style. You have to make it PLATONIC. In the first months of your friendship (yes, MONTHS) you will have to get to know her. Know some details about her. You MUST NOT make it obvious that you like her more than just a friend---NOT yet. In this phase, you show her what you are made of. You show her the good you have and your special abilites (if there's any). Things that you know that will impress her... but be discreet. You do this while not making her sense that you have a "hidden agenda". And that implies that you shouldnt be too helpful too or she'll suspect! Treat her as just a friend. This may be hard, you must be thinking i am crazy thats why i tell you patience is required! Anyway, who says getting the girl you want is easy??? Who do you think you are, Brad Pitt? Hah.

What good will this bring you?

Of course, common sense, the very best the foundation of lasting romantic love (if ever you are serious this time) is Friendship. And establishing friendship is not easy as you have to gain the trust of the person. Most guys underestimate this. Anyway, I think I have to point out some things coz some guys usually dont use their head:

You get to know her much MUCH BETTER.
If a girl knows that you like her and knows your intention, chance is, you wont get to know her better. Just a side of her and or she might even change personality. Or worst, she might even resent you. Afterall, she doesnt know you! This is what to avoid in the first place. But if the girl, knowing that you only "see" her just as her friend, she won't be awkward telling things. She will be comfortable telling things to you. She may even share some secrets and problems with you. Be a good conversationalist. Girls by nature love conversation... and avoid hints that you like her.

This creates an air of mysteriousness.
The girl will be left thinking, "He appeared out of nowhere and made friends with me, he's very nice. I wonder why... he seems not to make a move. I dont know. But does he like me????" When the girl thinks this way, she'll be thinking a lot about you. She'll be trying to figure out whether you like her or not. She'll be intrigued. In the this stage. She's starting to think about you! But this doesnt mean that she already likes you too. But dont celebrate just yet.... this is just the beginning.

Well, if you're lucky... in the long run, this would make her WANT YOU.

PHASE II. -We're friends already --WHAT'S NEXT???
Already best friends with her? Now things are much easy... So easy that this up to you this time! Be creative. Good luck ;) Bwahahahahaha~!!! You even might be having a relationship already before you knew it!

Ja!

(this entry was inspired due to the pathetic filipino guys out here)